Should You Date Your Roommate?

by Hometeam Properties on February 9, 2018



Relationships can cause problems. It’s par for the course – issues always surface, whether they’re disastrous or minor. If you're thinking should you date your roommate, take some time and really think about it. It's a huge decision to make and in most circumstances, it won't end well.

Relationships Change Everything

Not to overstate the obvious here, but if you start dating someone, you’re going to start acting differently … and so will the person you’re dating. Which means that you and the roommate won’t have the same roommate-roommate relationship you once had – and the new dating roommates relationship might not be at all like you expect.

Consider the impact on other roommates

If you do choose to date your roommate, it will cause strain on your relationship with all your other roommates. It’s inevitable, and it will make it harder for you to get some space and adjust to your new romantic relationship.

The situation could cause tension in the house and make your other roommates feel uncomfortable, while keeping it a secret from your other roommates, could erase their trust. Trying to find new roommates during the year wouldn't be ideal.

No escape from the relationship

Think what it’s like to live with your roommate now, and by dating you’ve just complicated your relationship even more. What if you get into an argument or just want some alone time? It isn’t easy to do anything without your roommate knowing and it’s not like you can avoid your roommate. So look forward to awkwardness and feeling uncomfortable in your own home until your lease expires.

Consider what happens if you break up

It’s emotionally difficult because you'll ruin the harmony in your house. Is it worth potentially losing your friendship with the other roommates? Even worse, you or your roommate may have to find a new place to live. You’ve shared a space together, and now what should be your home feels toxic and dirty. Are you prepared to go through the hassle of moving?

Maybe you think it’ll work in your situation, and it possibly could, but our advice is just stay away. Dating is a tricky situation and it's a better idea to take things slow in the beginning, and living in separate places will make that easier.